Wednesday, March 14, 2007

To all ye who pass judgement...others can skip..

What gives people the right to judge others? To callously, and at times patronizingly dismiss their worth and achievements? To malign someone u envy, with that casual remark and that arching of ur eyebrow? You have sized up the world. You have found a way to belittle her achievements. You have airily dismissed her worth. So are u satisfied now? Or are u still envious, burning with jealousy, cloaking it in these nonchalant speeches?

An achiever, u would dismiss as just being very "studious", uttered disparagingly, as if that explains everything. That explains why u could never be like him which exalts ur lack of determination into something u consider worth bragging about and underscores all his achievements .Is that what u think? Or r u still wishing very hard, to be like him?

Because people who pass judgments obviously do care. They care enough to contrive a thousand excuses, look for ways to justify their not being that way. Oh they care a lot!!!

When someone is popular, u call them promiscuous, when someone is envied, they are just very proud, when u really are in awe of someone, but would hate to admit it, well they just have an attitude problem, when ur dying to talk to someone, but they may not, well they are just too flirtatious for their own good. U don’t want to have anything to do with those kinds, with a righteous toss of the head!!!

You turn up ur nose and roll ur eyes when u talk about "geeks". You are obviously more socially accepted and artistically inclined than them. And u may be perfectly right. But why would u hate them so much for it? Why would u care that they r not?

I was once told by a misguided fem, that the "finer" things of life meant nothing to people like "me". People like "me"? What gives people the comfortable assurance that they can typecast everyone in their myopically defined molds?

What we don’t realize is, that when we judge someone we r just trying to calm our own insecurities. We voice our opinions, find a few others to ratify it and hey presto!!! We are lulled into a false sense of security. Who are we kidding?

So the next time you raise ur eyebrow and declare sentence, think about how it would affect the other person. He would obviously not care. But u would show that u really do. Which is exactly what u wanted to avoid isn’t it?

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Geek is good...nothing beats the feeling of hacking life in different ways...stay geek and love it !

http://geek-o-pedia.blogspot.com/

dc said...

so one is not to comment on this one.
did i just?

ishmi said...

Can I say that this piece is amazing!?!?!
I'm so proud (of you!) and glad you could actually put the entire gamut of feelings one goes through when someone makes that callous miscalculated remark, in words!
very well written indeed!

Unknown said...

"What gives people the comfortable assurance that they can typecast everyone in their myopically defined molds?"

Ah the answer to that is... Well, being childish. Being the Salt of the Earth.

Not having all the things needed to be a good person... except maybe money...

And... believing that "there are many things in life that money can buy... for everything else... there's the base ball bat"

Umm... am i passing judgments when i say these things? Umm How do i know?

Good work though. Seriously cool.

dawn said...

If people were to admit their defeat,brood over their shortcomings and acknowledge the superiority of others over them, their emotions would go out of control or they may plunge into clinical depression.
Nature gives us broadly 2 kinds of defence mechanisms to maintain our sanity : a mature defence humor-wherein we laugh at our faults,nurture our talents and move on,an immature one which makes us rationalize( make excuses for oneself, blame others) and act out(react vehemently while suppressing real emotions).
The author of this blog seems to be a little hurt at what others say.But I think u have done a great job analyzing the whole thing.Just take
it a little further.One must feel sorry for people who belittle you,understand them (they need to grow up) and bounce back.
Now we have used our own mature form of defence mechanism,hav'nt we?

Namrata Mishra said...

ur totally right dawn...I did write this in a fit of anger...but thnks fr the insightful comment!!!..n thanks again rahul..

Arvinda said...

Hi Namrata..This is Arvinda...in case u still remember me from oracle..!! Happened to come across your blog..i liked this post a lot,very well written!

Cruel Intentions said...

A vicious Circle Indeed, You comment in here, you are sterotyped, you don't, well you are still stereotyped. So which option should one take?

For every one forms opinions, irrespective about the fact if they are kept within or displayed openly!

But Still, The flow of the Piece has been Phenomenonal!

Anonymous said...

I am sure ..you must have been reeely pissed of with some comments by some XYZ person...! how people enjoy in categorizing others .... u.. u ar so aggresive... you are so direct... o u ...how can you say that in tht meeting... People ..come over this feeling of categorizing people who you want to be but still can't ..! in short your blog was awesome ..a word which has lost its meaning as it has become so....common... but ur writing is awesome !! well written !

Vivek said...
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Karan said...

I don't know at what time this was written...written for a particular person or a generic view, but,certainly a lot of perspicacities have been made.
But,still people won't stop.
After all, those who actually learnt from this would be a lot better than the ones who just scrolled through !